Should you psychoanalyze the psychoanalyst?
Many people share a piece of their day online. That doesn’t mean they share the entire story. It doesn’t mean they share every detail of their knowledge. It simply means they needed a place to get something out of their system and that was the place they choose to let it out. Maybe to share a lesson they are learning with others.
When that ‘share’ is from a professional teacher, minister, a therapist and so on; Should someone reading their post respond and give advice. Or try to teach the teacher?
Of course we all want to help those we feel connected to or care about. But when is that response beneficial, and when is it not?
Everyone is human and wants or needs to vent. When we hold professionals to a higher standard of that, we’re saying they’re not allowed to face challenges in life. If a Minister is walking their talk, they should always be happy, always have a perfect life, always be able to handle the challenges of life.
Really? We’re telling them they’re not human and don’t have a right to live a human life? These professional people are not robots who control every aspect of their lives through some mystical knowledge or power that the rest of us don’t possesses. So how did they get put into this unrealistic box?
I’m nowhere near a professional on this level. But I know a few Master Teachers. People that I know give themselves the self talk and go above and beyond living by the words they speak. Yet the Gods/Goddesses still challenge their lives and their paths. What a surprise. When I see one of these folks that I admire share a moment of struggle, the first thing I think is how sorry I am to hear they’re being tested. I don’t go to some mental ego place and think I know why they’re going through this struggle and then begin to tell them things about this sign or this situation or that gut feeling. What an arrogant assumption on the part of the readers to assume the Teacher doesn’t understand their own path.
Of course on the surface these people mean well. And when the responder is another teacher, they may even think they’re helping. But they’re not. Their efforts to offer unsolicited advice is self-serving, self-glorifying and need to be important and perhaps even superior.
Of course this isn’t their intention they say. The desire to help is what they claim. But do they think through the effects of the gesture? Or the real underlying energy behind their action? No. Because if they did, they’d ask themselves does this person really not know this already? Do I really need to tell them this? Because they probably already know what I’m about to say and they surely have already applied it to their personal situation. May there is no reason I should tell them this, except for my own glorification.
There’s nothing wrong with telling someone you’re sorry they’re struggling. If there’s anything I can do to help, please let me know. But when you make that offer, make sure you back it up. Because they might call you for that help and if you’re not there, then once again, your words are nothing more than self-serving glorification.
~ Victoria Lynn